"Although I speak from my own experience, I feel that no one has the right to impose his or her beliefs on another person. I will not propose to you that my way is best. The decision is up to you. If you find some point which may be suitable for you, then you can carry out experiments for yourself. If you find that it is off no use, then you can discard it." Dalai Lama...

Monday, 20 July 2009

Pokemon fever has hit.....

Still feeling rather withdrawn,you know,just not having any energy to make any plans and finding it extra hard to make conversation?Everything just seems such hard work.I have however been given a delightful Australian bush flower concoction to take each day, the ingredients include Mulla mulla,she oak,and sunshine wattle,from my homeopath,alongside the Folliculinam and Emerald she also prescribed over the last week,I have great hopes of feeling better soon:-)

Decided to post some pics.We have had a very quiet few weeks.We didn't want to go anywhere last Monday, but late morning Milly asked if we could go in to the toy shop to look for another starter pack of Pokemon so her and Al could play later.I would have preferred not to but decided it would do us both some good and off we went.We ate at a cafe and as it was nice weather ate outside.Off to the park and Milly made friends with two boys,8 and 10,Pokemaon cards being the ice breaker:-)They were on holiday from Scotland.We ended up in the park for nearly two hours and they had a great time. They then swapped mobile numbers, email and MSN details:-)I also had a nice chat with their Mum.They will be back down in a couple of weeks so will see if we can arrange a get together then.Glad we made the effort to get out.

On the following day Milly and I set off for The Beacon in Whitehaven.A nice afternoon with Lunch first, then an explore around the Museum.As we entered,the lady on the front desk told us about a quiz sheet we could do as we went round,I took one just in case, but as is normal, it arrived back home in the bottom of my bag! Milly involved me in a game of Torchwood as we went round.We spent some time on a section about food rations during the war and having to work out what meals we could have through the week to keep within the set budget.Milly opted for bread and dripping or other similar priced items during the week but splurged on the weekend as she felt that would be a nice time to treat yourself:-)Flitted from section to section doing whatever took her fancy and then back out to find some pokemon booster packs in town.

Top area, a veiwing gallery and exhibits about weather and a booth where you can be a weather presenter and see yourself on a monitor.




The view...




A scary looking highwayman...



Then and now,how fashion has changed:-)Milly decorated the back of her hand and down her fingers with heart tattoos before leaving home!



Monday, 13 July 2009

Four things you won't like hearing?

Four things you won't like hearing
by Kris Laroche

Thing one: your child's needs matter more than your own.

A child's brain is formed based on the quality of our interactions with them. We cannot ignore the importance of this in favor of what's more convenient for us.

Read more linked from here

Thursday, 9 July 2009

Trip to Yorkshire.

After a good run of wanting to blog every day I have found little motivation to write anything lately.

A couple of reasons being the good weather we were having and then computer meltdowns!! One other ingredient in the mix has been the incredible hot sweats I have been having,I have had such disrupted nights that I resemble a zombie during the day,it is taking me all my effort to remember what day it is, let alone write anything that might be in any way interesting;-)So off to see my homeopath tomorrow and also have info on diet changes to help ease the symptoms.Fingers crossed the coming weeks will be easier.

Any how here a a few pics of out time in Yorkshire,staying in Ripon at my lovely aunt and uncles house for a few days while they were away on holiday.

A visit to York and a park and ride journey that had Milly bubbling,so funny the things that make a visit special,she just loved being sat right at the front:-)



A second visit to Yorvick for Emily and I,a first for Alan.You travel through time in a pod and journey through a Viking settlement.Milly loved being able to share the ride with Alan,then as is usual,she completely ignored the part with the artifacts and information and headed to the shop.I did linger for a short time but there was a school group being ushered around and I decided to join Emily and Alan in the shop.




Then a walk around Fountains Abbey,memories of my childhood as it was a regular haunt for family picnics way back when :-)

The day was incredibly hot and I was not on top form which inevitably meant that Emily wasn't either,so a rather fractious walk with Emily desperate to find some water to swim in,and me finding it very difficult to be as tolerant as I would normally be.We saw plenty of water but nowhere suitable to get in.We walked quite a long way and then the heavens opened, despite trying to shelter in the trees we got soaked.Somehow the change in weather enabled a change in our moods and things started to improve.A walk back to the car with trees to climb, deer to get close to and three very wet, but very happy campers.
















We had made a conscious decision not to travel too far afield and had lovely lazy mornings before a short trip out then back home for tea and then Milly and Alan would head over to the park and wander around Ripon and down the canal before arriving home late in the evening.Milly really loved Ripon and it was three whole days into the trip before she began pining for home and her animals.A good trip, very relaxing and great to actually spend some time revisiting places I remembered from childhood.

Thursday, 2 July 2009

Just a quickie.

Back on line after a few days without connection.Not overly impressed with talk talk and their technical dept,I get it free so I won't grumble too much.

I have so much catching up to do on blogs and the lists,it is going to be a marathon when I get round to it.

Anyhow back online now,but no time to blog, too sunny:-) Gotta make the most of it before it disappears!!

I hope you are all having fun and enjoying the weather.I love the sun but at the moment I also have my own central heating in the form of severe hot sweats, so it has been challenging at times ;-)

Had a great short break away and then back to some serious gardening.Being ill in March meant I got no planting done in the veg garden and then one thing after another conspired to keep me from doing it and I thought I was going to have to give it a miss this year.Alan and I have just spent two days planting and it is all looking good.I do love to get my hands in the soil :-)Will post some pics tomorrow.

Friday, 19 June 2009

Friday....

Things didn't go quite to plan this week!!

Milly came down with sickness bug.She wasn't actually sick but because she really fears being sick she couldn't settle to sleep.We have had some very late nights:-(
Alan and I have both been feeling nauseous too.

Been keeping up with all the info about the review,not had enough time or brainpower to format any response yet.

We have decided to invest in some camping gear and will probably start with a smaller tent for weekends/short breaks away.The aim being to get some practice then go further afield next year.So many options in tents.Looking forward to coming back and doing some serious research.

I am finishing off some cooking for a picnic,waiting for pizzas to cool so they can go in the fridge then I am off to bed.

Off for a short break to Yorkshire tomorrow:-)

Sunday, 14 June 2009

Sunday swim.

I went to see The vagina monologues in Carlisle last night with some friends.Loved it!! Late night and had a long lie in this morning.Milly and Alan took off for a walk.Not up to it myself so stayed home and worked through paying bills and a few jobs around the house.

Here are some shots of a wonderful day spent exploring and climbing.











Milly found an injured blackbird and was very worried!!






Sadly it was very obvious there was very little that could be done for it.So they left it in a peaceful quiet place:-(

Saturday, 13 June 2009

Fighting our corner.

Since This report came out I have gone through many emotions.I have spent as much time as I could reading all the info out there.The lists are alive with information and it is hard for me to take it all in.I have read so many wonderful posts and there is no way I can emulate their eloquence.

I am going to spend what time I have over the weekend taking in as much as I can and will start on Monday with some kind of plan to write,phone,email do whatever I can to ensure my voice is heard.

It has taken me a long time to get to a place where I was strong enough to do what I believed was right for Emily.Over the last two years we have created "A life worth living" :-)

I am not going to give that up without a fight.

Thursday, 11 June 2009

The evening dance.

Laying in the bath a few nights ago,I was trying to read my book but my thoughts kept wandering.I was thinking about the last few days and how joyful they had been.Things had been going smoothly,the evening had been enjoyable and everything just seemed to flow...

About 18 months ago we began to let go of bedtimes.We didn't announce she had no bedtime, we began gently.We said yes when she asked to stay up later,we stopped insisting on a set time for her to go up.Even though it was gradual we found it hard to adjust to Milly being up later, we resented the disruption to our nights.We just couldn't find a way that worked,it all seemed so chaotic.We had got so used to the nights(mostly)being our own time.Very often we had a hyper, over tired Milly who needed a great deal of our attention.Emily has never gone to bed by herself and needed one of us to go up with her,she liked us to stay until she was asleep.We were more than happy to do that and when she had a set time to go up we knew we could come back down and have some time to relax and switch off.If Emily decided to go to bed at 9.30 it meant that by the time she had had a bath (if she wanted one)and we had snuggled and read,by the time she had got to sleep it was late and not really worth coming back down,especially for Alan as he needs to be up at 6.

When she choose to stay up later, it just seemed we had no time to ourselves,as a couple or to do the things we wanted to do individually.It was not unusual for her to stay up with whoever was up the latest and then go to bed with them.We had lots of times when she was over tired and the days were hard because of it.We talked about the effects of lack of sleep,we tried to keep these conversations informative rather than judgemental and brought it up at times it was relevant to the discussion we were having,rather than using it as a "see we told you" kind of conversation.Have to say that was hard and there were times when we were not as understanding,especially when she would get up late and not want to do anything or go anywhere and we had things planned or were wanting to go out ourselves.

It all began to get to us.Alan and I talked it through and looked at the options,setting an enforced bedtime had not always worked,there were many nights when she was just not tired and we would end up staying upstairs for hours and getting more and more wound up that she wouldn't sleep or we would leave her when she was settled, but not quite asleep and she would wake up and be up and down the stairs all night till she finally was tired enough to sleep.So many nights there were numerous delaying tactics,resisting going to bed and our patience was tested to the limit.For a short time (because of getting up for school)we had tried rewards for staying upstairs and also consequences for not staying up,neither worked but even if they had, it didn't "feel" right.It always seemed to be a battle.Bedtimes were doing nothing for our relationship with Emily.

We talked about her needs and how we could meet them and we talked about what we wanted our evening to look like.

We could see that the problem wasn't so much that Emily was up, it was the way we were thinking,the resentment of feeling that we never had any time to ourselves was eating away at us and filling us with negativity.We weren't communicating and both felt hard done too.We wanted to continue and were willing to change our habits and expectations and adapt to a new way. We wanted to ensure we each got some time during the week to ourselves.Once we were clear that was the priority we started from there, and worked out what needed to be done to ensure we could make it work.

We decided it would be a good idea for us to talk about what we wanted to do on an evening and to have a loose plan as to who wanted to go to bed at what time and if any of us had a particular programme we wanted to watch or anything we had wanted to do.Took us some time to come up with this simple plan but we got there eventually:-)We saw that there were other options.Just because our evenings had always looked a certain way, they didn't have to stay that way.

Although we have that loose plan in the early evening, things can change, they are not set in stone .It helps us to have a rough idea.We got what we needed which was a way of organising our evening so that jobs could get done or TV programmes could be watched,or whatever it was we wanted to do.We plan who will go up with Emily.That was one thing that really helped,because one of us was "on" and available to go up with her at whatever time she chooses.We talked about her staying up till she was tired and snoozing on the couch in her duvet, while we watched TV or whatever, but that was not an option for her as she likes to be in bed to sleep.We tried to think out of the box and find ways that we could make it work for us all.We talked about many different ways .By communicating our needs,being adaptable and working together we have managed to eliminate the stress around bedtimes.

She knows when she is tired and not having any reason to battle against bedtime she has no need to stay up unnecessarily.There are occasions when she is particularly into something that she chooses to stay up, but she no longer stays up just because she can.

We had bought a laptop for Emily to use and when one of us had read to to her on a night she could snooze off knowing someone was there with her and whoever had taken her to bed could watch BBCi or 4 on demand or a DVD or blogs:-)) on the laptop.We could lay in bed and read while she dozed off,we have a head torch(I know how comical is that image!!)we need to get a clip on light to go on the headboard which will be so much better!!So Emily gets what she wants /needs which is to go to bed when she is tired, with someone to lay with her so she isn't scared.

We are now much more accepting of her ever changing natural rhythm.We rarely plan anything in the mornings so we can have a slow start in case of a late night.Alan likes to be up early and get going and it was frustrating to him that plans would be made to go for a walk and he would wait ,then she might get up and not want to go.On a weekend he now lets us know his plans for the walk, if we are up before he goes and want to go with him, we go, if not he goes off and enjoys his walk.During the week I might have time on a morning if she is still snoozling in bed,instead of allowing that time to be eaten up doing jobs,I make a conscious decision to take time to do the things I enjoy and then if I still have time before she is up I will get on and do the jobs.

Alan and I find time to connect in different ways,we make the most of the times we have to chat when he comes in from work,we have become expert at grabbing the moment to talk through our day.We still need to work on a way to spend more time together.Have to be creative as we can't afford a babysitter too often and Milly is not always keen on the free option of going to stay at relatives on her own.

To be honest in our house when Emily had a set bedtime it wasn't as if we were actually "together" apart from possibly sharing the same couch to watch TV,even then we have different tastes in programmes, so we were often in different rooms!!If anything, looking at the way we spent our time on an evening has meant that our nights are rejuvenated. The focus is on being together more of the evening(even if that means just being in the same room but doing different things) and having as much fun as we can.

Over time things have settled into a very natural routine.We get the "me time" but it looks different to how it used to;-)

On a typical evening,Emily and Alan will go for a walk and get deeply involved in a role play game, while I cook tea.We have tea, sometimes at the table together, but often they will have tea together watching The Simpsons(I just don't get the simpsons!!)in a different room and I will watch a
programme I like or I am in the same room but read Blogs( I know how dreadful eating at the computer!!) Not so long ago I would have been so conscious that we "should" all eat together at the table.Things have changed,we look at the "shoulds" we examine them and then decide if they are important for us.

One of the reasons most families sit together to eat is because that could be the one time in the evening between homework, after school activities, baths and bed,that they can chat about their day.We are lucky that Alan is home by 3.45 (flexi time, he chooses to go in for 7.30 so that he can get home early)I know that some parents work later so that might be why they would choose to all eat together.Our circumstances are different,we don't need to sit at a table to connect and go through our day, we spend so long in each others company and have many opportunity's to talk during the evening.It isn't the case that we never sit at the table,because that in itself can be very pleasant,however we no longer see it as a " must do "every night.

We might wash up together while Emily is occupied doing whatever she is wanting to do or I will go and play with her and Al will wash up.They also have 20 mins on the trampoline boxing at some point in the evening,so I might do the pots then.Every evening is different, games might be played or we might read together or watch a film or TV,or spend time out in the garden .We don't always spend time together on an evening, we could all be in different rooms doing different things.Jobs get slotted in throughout the evening.Because Milly is following her natural rythym we no longer have the very giddy,hyper little girl who needs our attention all the time on a night.We have found things naturally wind down and become quieter and calmer.Most evenings Milly plans 9ish as her time to go up,previously when Alan and I talked through the options we had, he said he would be happy to go up around that time most work nights,he is up early in a morning and would be going up earlier than me anyway.Because it is something he chooses to do and he knows he has other options if he wanted to,it has meant he is doing it happily.He will read to her while she has a bath or they snuggle in bed and read,normally settling down around 10.If there is something Al wants to do I will take her to bed,once we have read for a while she will snooze while I listen to a meditaion ,catch up on TV , blogs or don my head torch and read:-))If she does want to stay up I will be the one during the week to stay with her.

At the moment she doesn't want to stay up later than either of us,if that time comes we will look at all the options and work out a plan that works for all of us.

As I was laying in the bath,I thought about an old fashioned dance where someone might come along and excuse one partner, the dancing flows on,just different partners at different times.That kind of sums up how I feel it goes here,were all on the floor, sometimes dancing all together, sometimes a couple,sometimes apart, but always in harmony.

Saturday, 6 June 2009

Saturday here.....

Our days always start in a very relaxed way,it takes me a while to come round and so by necessity I treat myself gently in a morning and don't rush around.Milly has never really been a morning person either and has been waking around 9.30/10.00 lately.When it is a work morning Al is up at 6.00 but on weekends may have a lie in till 8.00:-)He quite likes to get up and get going,he likes to be kept busy.He was up first, with me shortly after,while Milly snoozed on...

After walking Beauty, Alan got back and sat with a cuppa,getting in touch with his feminine side, reading my trashy mag;-)



I had baked off some sweet potato's yesterday to make a sweet potato cake today.I can't make enough, Emily and Alan adore it and so does everyone else that's eaten it.I got the recipe from a blog and I can't remember which one but here is the recipe.I just use two bread tins to cook it in and use a food processor so it is a very easy cake to make.



We had no plans this morning so when Emily did get up she decided to watch some W.I.T.C.H, while we were nearby finishing baking,reading.



Beauty did what Beauty does, and chilled out...



Alan went off to play with Emily.It is an ongoing game involving some W.I.T.C.H characters they have been playing on the walks each night.While they were busy,I eventually got around to clearing the kitchen cupboards.
They don't look as bad from this distance but things were falling on top of me whenever I attempted to get anything out to bake.



There were an embarrassing amount of things out of date,which although wasteful meant more space so I could spread things out a little.Once I had cleaned the sticky,icky shelves.

We decided to watch a film together and as we had just bought Slumdog Millionaire we started that .Milly wasn't keen and after an hour we turned it off and watched another one we hadn't seen, The Mummy(3) instead.

Alan then finished painting some garden furniture and I got on with the tea prep.Delia Smiths Braising steak in green peppercorn sauce, a simple but delicious and mouth watering Recipe.I can't find it on line but it is in an old complete cookery course book I have.Haven't got time now but may come back and put the recipe on cos it really is delish :-)



Once I had it in the oven I had a couple of hours,so went off to play a hospital game with Emily,I was the nurse and she was the patient,reminded me of Chloe as we had something similar when we were in the tent I remember:-))

Then I got in a bath and read for a while before hair washed and tea prep.

Lovely meal then TV and blogging before I head off to bed with Milly to watch the end of Slumdog whilst she snoozes off.....

That was our Saturday, how was yours?xx

Tuesday, 2 June 2009

Hot sunny days,I think I'm in heaven!!

The last few days have been glorious.Spent at home in very little clothing,I have a very sheltered garden so non of the neighbours needs to see me in my cossy:-)

Emily kept Beauty active all day long.Beauty loves the hose pipe but because of arthritis can no longer jump around too much,it just inflames her elbow and causes pain.There were short bursts of water her way though and she loved it and then Emily would get her to sit while she bounced on the mini trampoline and as soon as she jumped forward Beauty would bounce forward too and catch the splashes.Great fun for both:-)






Emily initially didin't want to get her hair wet,hence the shower cap,however she soon decided to just get soaked....

The next day she repositioned her pool under the swing and spent the whole day filling with the hose then splashing and swinging,and filling some more.She got through two bottles of Mr Matey bubble bath and the lawn looks like a herd of cows have been through,because wherever the pool and Emily were, so was Beauty, dancing around trying to get the splashes:-)








Some other sunny scenes....








For some reason I don't remember spending much time laying here.Looking forward to the weather lasting a while and I can carry on reading the last book in the Twilight series to her while she paddles.

Saturday, 30 May 2009

Natural learning part two

I have put together some of the things that have been happening over the last year.This is not exhaustive, just a snapshot ,but I think it gives a good overview of what natural learning looks like for us.Non of these things have been compulsory, all of the activities stem from Emily's interests, which I pick up on and attempt to expand with things I think she might like.Emily has complete freedom to watch TV and go on the computer at any time,she often chooses to do other things;-)She is in control of what she does and when and for how long she does it.

Jacqueline Wilson Books,also widened to include DVD’s,Jacqueline Wilson‘s autobiography, Diary with facts about the author and quiz‘s about the books, Story CD’s, websites. Lots of discussions about real life tragedy and dealing with emotions.

Karen McCombie Ally’s world .Moving on to new series by same author, Stella etc. Great humour and real life family dramas.

Stephanie Meyer Twilight series includes Cinema visit, DVD with special features, book about behind the scenes and making of the film. A visit on holiday to Whitby also tied in with information about Bram Stoker and Dracula .

Golden Compass (Northern lights trilogy) all story tapes listened to time and time again. Books about the making of the film and behind the scenes footage on DVD. We have read about the author on his website. Many conversations where snippets of info on various things crop up and lead back to info heard about in the Golden compass. Trepanning being just one I can remember.We were having a conversation about skulls with a friend and in part of the story Trepanning was mentioned and Emily piped up about the Tarters doing it to let out bad spirits.I was amazed, I had never heard of it and here was another piece of info she had picked up from a story tape.

Artemis Fowl Story CD’s. Milly enjoys spy and mystery drama such as Miss Marple ,Agatha Christie,Nancy Drew and Midsomer Murders. Newly purchased book called Five minute Mysteries to get into, where a scene is set and you have to work through the clues to find the answer.

The My story range of books. We have read ones about the Potato famine, Titanic, Plague and have started The Victorian workhouse but have bought a range of titles to dip in to as and when. When we read the Plague one, I found Story CD’S The plague house in the library with information about the Plague that I thought she would enjoy.She loved them and Emily made up a character called sorrel who lived in that time and Emily acted out being Sorrel for quite some time :-)

Greek Myths, Percy Jackson series,website with facts and quizs, Roman Mysteries revisited again this year on film and in story. Romans board game, Involves answering questions about the era as you move around the board. Jason and the arganauts movie, Horrible histories DVD's.I often wonder what Emily is actually taking from the things we do and because we don't do any form of testing we rely on conversations or facts to crop up during something related,that happened when we watched Night at the museum she knew about Sacajawea the Indian guide when I didn't!!(showing my ignorance here!!)

Casualty TV programme, other programmes /documentaries that depict real life rescues. Discussing plans to take a ST Johns ambulance first aid course. I am going to look at other avenues of opening up this interest for her with visits if possible. Anatomix board game ,answering questions about Anatomy to win jigsaw pieces.Milly is very good at answering correctly,I love to hear where she has got her info and the last time we played, one of the questions was about how many ribs we had,she answered without hesitation and the way she knew? Pa ingles in Little house on the Prairie brook his ribs and she remembered we have 12 pairs from that book:-)

Fairies, Angels, spirituality, gemstones. Milly has a collection of gemstones and I am planning a visit to a local mine in Keswick where you can pan for gold and a more hands on/practical /geological approach can be explored as well as the healing/spiritual side of gems.

Fashion design. This ties in with Emily’s love of drawing figures, which are characters in her stories. Websites with the opportunity to dress figures in a multitude of styles including mermaids, warrior women etc as well as modern fashion.

Victorian era and Georgian era have been of interest recently. Amongst other things, we have made visits to Tullie house, Muncaster castle ,Wordsworth house.Milly doesn't like to do any kind of worksheets when we go round places.Hard facts are of little interest to her most of the time.She loves to invent a character who lives in the place and we create a story and she acts it out in the castle/house. Some future plans include visits to Beamish in October ,Dove cottage, Long Meg etc to see the places, read some poetry in situ, and tie in the history around the area to Wordsworth. Milly enjoys looking at buildings and deciding if they are from Victorian or Georgian times. I have plans to research and go on a tour around Carlisle to look at the Victorian Architecture.We have watched pride and prejudice and Sense and sensibility. Listened to Phillip Pullmans Ruby in the smoke and Shadow in the north and watched the dramatisation of both.

Have visited York , Jorvick Museum, York Minster, The shambles. Whitby and the Abbey, Ripon and Cathedral. Holiday in Yorkshire in June to go back and revisit all of them .

Titanic, seen the movie, read the My story book. Purchased a book with pull out model and replica tickets etc. Box set 3 DVD’s with documentaries from the discovery channel about the search for information on the cause of the sinking.

Emily is an Arctophilist and has started to buy some collectable bears.

Making up stories is still a passion; she tells them, records them on a dictation machine and has a growing collection of notebooks that stories are recorded in, to varying degrees. A laptop is now available to record her stories/character biographies etc. A lot of the time the stories involve role-play. These “games “often include real historical figures and times and it is as if she is living and feeling the history.

Interest in putting together a family tree, this is only in the early stages but will be something that can be added to as and when.

Walking with Alan and Beauty around the Lakes and fells, trampolining ,climbing tree’s and play boxing have been ways of keeping active. Milly is still interested in Karate but is not keen on a class situation, if Emily is in agreement I am going to try to find someone who can provide a very open session to explore the moves rather than “teach” at the moment. Swimming has been on hold recently due to illness but is another favourite activity.

Animals still play a big part in Emily’s world and we have visited Trotters farm regularly. We have watched Gorillas in the mist and read Sophie’s story both about the work done in conservation. We have a boxed set of DVD’s showing real life animal rescues from the Animal planet channel.
We have read the children’s version of Marley and Me and seen the film and we intend to get the adult version to read as well.
Wild at heart series on TV (set in Africa about a vet and his family and life looking after wild animals,)we then purchased DVD collection. Books and websites about wild animals are visited regularly.
We are thinking of volunteering at a local wildlife sanctuary.

Emily loves to draw the characters she makes up and weaves a story around the drawing ,usually verbally but sometimes in notebooks or typed.
Drawing has moved into an interest in Anime and Manga after reading and watching the series of W.I.T.C.H.
We are intending to view the work of Hayao Miyazaki on film .we will also look into getting some comic books .Milly has shown an interest in drawing in the style and is going about it in her own way as she finds manuals and tutorial hard to follow, although both these options are open to her if she wishes.

I have a range of science experiments that I have sourced from the Steve Spangler website. I have them ready with instructions and ingredients in zip lock bags and when we decide to do one they are ready to go.

Math is around us daily and although we don’t do maths problems ,dealing with time and finances mean Emily has a basic knowledge which grows as interest is sparked, or by a need to find answers.

We visit the local home Ed group .We have just met up with friends we met on the internet, who also home educate. We would love to join in future camps/get-togethers with them and other home edders. We have schooled friends locally as well as other home edders that we get together with outside the home Ed group.
We do activities such as Forest Days,drumming workshops and so on with the group.

By allowing Emily to follow her interests and her passions she is gaining confidence in her own ability. Her drawing moves at her pace in her own way ,she goes through periods where drawing is all she does and then periods where she rarely picks up a pencil. There has been significant progression in her work. She gains immense satisfaction from having mastered something herself in her own timescale with no input from anyone else.

Writing and typing are now undertaken daily ,writing is still difficult for her and slow going but the frustration she once felt is not as evident. There is no hesitation at attempting to spell a word and she rarely asks for help with spelling ,she can “ see” when a word doesn’t look right and will play around until it seems right to her. She communicates with friends on MSN typing in conversations and has a pen pal in America with plans to use SKYPE to communicate with her on line with instant messenger and via webcam.

Talking,talking,talking!!!!

There is no set date an interest has to have been explored by.Two years ago she was interested in Queen Elizabeth,over time we have watched films and read books and in the future things may crop up that engage her or offer new info about the era.


We have no way of knowing what she is learning from one day to the next.the evidence is that connections being made daily as Emily follows her interests, building blocks that grow to form structures, some of which end up a few blocks,some that grow and keep on expanding .Connections are made between each, as and when she finds new information, or when she goes back over old ground. Emily is learning and will continue to do so without the stress and restriction of school.She is free,she chooses her time table,her activities,when she eats,and what she eats.She can go to the loo without being embarrassed or afraid she will be told to wait.She decides what interests her,she doesn't have to spend hours and hours in activities she doesn't want or need.Her talents can grow because she can focus on them and from that self esteem grows.Her growth is evident in her interactions.

I know the future is bright for Emily.She is in charge of it and I am her co-pilot until she can Fly solo :-)

Friday, 29 May 2009

Third time lucky ;-)

Milly and I spent a very relaxed morning at home.We were both on computers and I was making calls and clearing paperwork.At the moment we have no sofas in the living room so Milly prefers to sit at the dining room table on the laptop and I was at the desk in the living room.Milly has MSN on both so we communicated online for a bit of fun:-0 Her typing and spelling is coming on in leaps and bounds!!

Out to do some shopping and Milly had not wanted to go to the play park or read on one of the benches near the river as I had suggested but as we were leaving she decided to take her new sketchbook she had bought from Muncaster.

We got to the car park and she asked to go along the river before going into town.We eventually found a bench where we could sit and she roughly sketched the scene over the river,we then walked on and found a place she could paddle.The sun was shining and she was squealing with delight and splashing around with a stick and we talked about the differences she had noticed in the way the stick went through the water when it was deeper and then when it was shallow.

After a while I looked at the time and was in a hurry to get what we had to do done and then I watched her face and realised there were better things to do on a gloriously sunny day and said ""You really want to get wet don't you love" and she most definitely didn't need asking twice!!Within minutes she was sitting down and splashing herself.I wish I had my camera it was lovely and she bought a smile to the faces of the people that passed by :-0

Didn't get in to do the shopping at all in the end,just have to fit it in tomorrow:-)

Back home and a few jobs to get done before getting ready to go out to Maryport for the outdoor event they had planned.Third time to see an organised event in 6 days, after Carlisle and Muncaster.This one had good weather and a big crowd and luckily some entertaining acts and a spectacular high wire act and fireworks!!

There were low points,the ques for ice creams and candy floss and the loos, but they could be expected with big crowds.There were quite a few large groups rather worse for wear and one of the downsides because of that was that a couple of young guys decided to shout obscenities at one of the acts.

All in all I would say we enjoyed it because of the quality of the acts and the high wire act was breathtaking.I took some pictures but haven't had time to download them so I may add later on.