A LIFE WORTH LIVING....: Plan D !!!

Wednesday, 1 September 2010

Plan D !!!

When I woke this morning the day ahead had been planned.Emily and I had decided yesterday that we would go to Rheged again.We wanted to go to the giant cinema screen to see Take me to the moon in 3D.

When it got to 10.45 and she was still snoozing I woke her and after reading for a while I said that if she still wanted to go we would need to think about getting ready to make it in time.She asked if we could stay home and take Beauty for a walk and just hang out at home.No problem at all it was a nice sunny day so that became plan B:-)

After a while we talked about where to go for a walk and non of the regular walks near home fitted the bill so plan c was hatched;-) off for a walk around Buttermere and an opportunity for Emily to swim.Packed a bag and headed off. Buttermere was very busy and we had decided we wouldn't pay the £4 parking charge at the car park ( more money to spend on a cuppa/ice cream at the cafe) so headed of to the road we knew had some parking spaces for free. it seemed that every man and his dog knew about the road today and it was a very long way up before there was any space at all.We decided to carry on and turn round to go back down and see if someone had moved and created a space nearer the lake...

The nearest place to turn around was half way up the mountain!! As we pulled in near a waterfall we decided this would be as good a place as any to stop so plan D came into operation:-)

We set off to get to the waterfall.

Follow me I know where I am going she says...

Not too far to go now.

Look at that view.

Scramble down this rocky sloping path!!

Well worth the trek.

Ok Mum, instead of going back the way we came let's go over this way it's more exciting.At first I was resistant! I could see how much she really wanted to do it though and decided I would give it a go.

I am not too keen on this route Milly,I don't like the sheer drops!Ok it was only 15 feet or so but still...

A very steep decline to get back to the stream so we could cross over again.At this point I was moaning how difficult it was to walk sideways on mossy springy grass...

Look at those views...

Yes I see how lovely they are.

Far away in the distance is the slither of road we have to reach to get back up the steep hill to where the car is....

A drink and a breather to admire the surroundings and for me to moan about the prospect of getting stuck in marshy ground...

Finally we make it across the stream with just this hill to climb back to the car.

I moaned and groaned but you know what? It was a much better walk than if we had just gone on the well trodden path:-) We took our time back up the road and sat and discussed many topics along the way.

A lovely drive home, past the lake with the late afternoon sun shining down on the glittering water.

Milly has a renewed interest in Mcfly with the imminent release of their new single and we put on Radioactive - very loud - which brought back many happy memories of the holiday to Wales with Millie :-)

Home and at this moment Alan is struggling to light the BBQ although he has managed to get a roaring fire going in the Chiminea.

An evening of cards and games in front of a roaring fire for us....

1 comment:

Claire said...: What beautiful surrounds!!; 1 September 2010 at 19:07

This is me.....

There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout: This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.” Stacey Charter.

Why we Home educate

( Slightly edited from a blog post I did when we started out) In the end the actual decision to take Emily out only took a matter of days but before that it had been around a year and a half of talking about ti and reading books, Free range education by Terri Dowty, Educating your child at home by Jane Lowe and Alan Thomas were two that had a real impact for different reasons. Free range education has lots of examples of real life home educators and I think I can say that it was this one that convinced me the most that we could do it. We are two very average people ,neither of us left school with many qualifications, we went on to do quite well in our chosen professions and had no need to think about the education system at all until Emily came along.

I knew about home education and when Emily was born considered it as an optionbut always felt my lack of education would be a problem and that I wouldn't be capable of providing her with what she would need.Looking back with hindsight it is easy to see how wrong I was!!

School never really suited Emily......After the nursery year at a very highly rated, high achieving school we knew that particular School wasn't for us and took her out. We enrolled her in a lovely village school with only 70 children in the whole school .The ethos of the school was totally different, the children didn't wear uniforms and there was much more emphasis on the children being individuals.The head was a sensitive and principled man who wanted the best for the children. We thought we had struck gold.Over the reception and year 1 Emily gained confidence and really started to bloom. It was at this time she was diagnosed with dyspraxia( we had had to go down the diagnosis route as our observations of Emily's difficulties were not enough to enable the teachers to tailor things so she was helped and given less work in class) but she managed quite well in the more relaxed play orientated early years.Year 2 with more emphasis on academic activities got progressively harder for her. She is very sensitive and it wasn't just the academic side it was the embarassment of having to put her hand up for the toilet,seeing others being told off and worrying in case she did something wrong and got the same treatment, panicking because she couldn't do the work and the teacher never had time to sit with her (alot of this did not come out until she had left school) her behaviour at home became worse and worse she was so angry and obviously stressed . At this time we began to seriously consider taking her out but held back because of my lack of confidence in my ability to provide her with an adequate education ,my health being so poor was also a major stumbling block.

Then in year three it became blatantly obvious that something needed to change .She was struggling on all levels and we couldn't allow the school system to damage our daughter anymore.She became ill with a bug that was doing the rounds and she was off for two weeks , during that time I had a conversation with a friend who home educates her two children and I was so upset I couldn't make a decision and she said just go with whats in your heart and that really helped me to shift my thinking and stop worrying about what I couldn't give her and focus on what I could give her.

We never sent her back.I still get emotional when I think of that time , the look on Emily's face when we told her she would never have to go back to school was priceless,the immense sense of relief that we were off the treadmill of school life and the excitement of the time ahead and to be honest the fear of the unknown......

So here we are four years on and a lot of reading and researching later I feel comfortable with what we are doing . The changes that have happened so far have been helped along the way by the many wonderful blogs out there.They are so varied and there are so many different approaches , I have found ones that I can identify with and have read a lot of archive material that has been written in each and found answers to so many of the questions I have had that they have helped me to sort out what will work best for us .As much as I wish we had done this earlier and saved Emily from the distress that she went through I do believe things happen for a reason and that the time was right for us to take her out and that looking on the bright side one of the benefits is that at least she has had a taste of school and now we all know without a doubt that it is not for us !!!!

It is very liberating to be making decisions based on what works best for us as a family and not what society expects.

Let your child be a child.

No child was ever spoiled by too much love.

Be authentic with your child.

Listen openly to your child’s needs.

Believe in your child’s good intentions.

Find the humour.

Look past the behaviour… what is your child feeling?

Have fun with your child today!

“There is no reason why we cannot say ‘No’ to children in just as kind a way as we say ‘Yes’.” - John Holt

“Play is really the work of childhood.” - Fred Rogers

“The best way to make children good is to make them happy.” - Oscar Wilde

Children thrive in a peaceful and loving environment.

A child needs love most when things go wrong.

Children reflect the treatment they receive.

A few qoutes I like....

Life shouldn't be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in, broadside, thouroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly shouting, 'WOW'.... Beth Moore

The perpetual testing of public school children is like a gardener constantly pulling his plants up by the roots to see if they are growing....(unknown)

Children require guidance and sympathy far more than instuction...Helen Kellers teacher

I hear and I forget I see and I remember I do and I understand...Confusious