"Although I speak from my own experience, I feel that no one has the right to impose his or her beliefs on another person. I will not propose to you that my way is best. The decision is up to you. If you find some point which may be suitable for you, then you can carry out experiments for yourself. If you find that it is off no use, then you can discard it." Dalai Lama...

Thursday, 21 April 2011


We heard from Alan's brother that his biological Dad has a serious heart problem and may not have long to live. Alan hasn't seen his Dad since before we got Married and infrequently prior to that.
It's a long story and not mine to tell - suffice to say his Dad had severe mental health problems.He was not equipped to parent, he was very controlling and the home was not a happy place. He and Al's Mum separated eventually and as the years moved on Alan and his brothers chose not to have much contact with him.We have some contact with a few members of the family but since his Mum died we have lost touch with the many nieces and nephews...

Milly has known that Alan had a biological Dad and a step dad.
We discussed the situation and whether - by telling one of Alan's brothers about his illness - he was reaching out to them.

Alan has some thinking to do and some decisions to make about whether or not he can forgive his Dad's actions and to try and contact him before he dies or simply go to his funeral.

Milly is always so wise in these kinds of conversations. She is an old head on young shoulders..In her role as Family hug monitor ( a role bestowed on her when she was younger ;-)  ) she also ensured we all had a cuddle..

After Al had gone to bed she wrote a note for him and made him a heart shaped, Best Dad award. She displayed them on the Island unit and showed me them.I said how lovely that was and she said
" You know - because of his Dad..."

I stepped out of my room this morning onto a handwritten note - left for me after I had gone to bed. It was in purple ( my fav colour ) with some words done in multi coloured letters.

Best Momma in the world award.
You do loads of nice and self-less things for me almost every minute and that's what being a fabbity fab Momma means!
I love u and even if I don't always say it
I love you, you r the best Momma
and I mean that
loads of love

Milly and Pan

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