"Although I speak from my own experience, I feel that no one has the right to impose his or her beliefs on another person. I will not propose to you that my way is best. The decision is up to you. If you find some point which may be suitable for you, then you can carry out experiments for yourself. If you find that it is off no use, then you can discard it." Dalai Lama...

Wednesday, 13 February 2008

Harbour walks and party prep.

Yesterday we had a very lazy morning, Emily was listening to a story CD and I was pottering ,I couldn't be bothered to do anything and really didn't feel like going out but I am so glad we did. We had a great afternoon out with friends at the local aquarium .We had lunch then went in to what was a very busy aquarium.I usually much prefer to go when the schools are off but we coped!!! Then it was on to the big play park and as we were all leaving Emily asked if we could walk around the harbour so we said our goodbyes and had a lovely walk in the sunshine watching the fishing boats and Milly was chatting away. We got talking about our one year anniversary (Home Ed) and I asked what she would like for a gift to mark it and had expected her to ask for a soft toy but after thinking for a short while she said she would like a mouse,a live one!!! Well all the way round the harbour she talked about the mouse, it was named and a cage was filled with all the things it would need. She would save up all her money to buy the things needed and she would look after it herself. Now this is where it all sounds so familiar, first the Rabbit ,then the cat, then the dog, now the mouse!! I wasn't sure the man who appears to get left with most of the looking after would be willing to add another animal to the menagerie,however she took this on the chin and said she would prove to him she would take a larger part in looking after them and then he could decide if she could have one.We are going to try and find someone who actually has a mouse as I have a feeling if she sees one she may change her mind....

Today Milly was supposed to be tidying her bedroom floor ready to get two mattresses down for the sleepover. She did a little whilst I got on with something else and then we ended up falling out yet again about it.Won't bore you with the details suffice to say one day I will handle things better!!!

We made up and headed off shopping and things between us were much better we had a great time looking for things for the party bags and then went off for lunch at Mcdonalds, not usually a choice she makes but the free gift was a small dog toy hence the attraction.Then off food shopping. Back home to fill party bags and then she had a good bounce with Al on the trampoline.It is good now the weather is getting better,last year she spent hours and hours bouncing and playing on the trampoline and climbing frame. My favourite thing was when she made them into a wagon complete with reigns and covered area for the back of the wagon,Little house on the praire was being read at the time....

It is going to be a long night for us tomorrow. I have got them some face packs and coloured hair mouse and glitter spray and they are going to have a pamper session and get glammed up. Alan is setting up a surprise disco in the dining room and we have a heart theme obviously.So lots of heart lights and confetti with love heart sweets ,plus a disco ball.Should be good fun for them as they can use the Cd player but also U Tube on the PC, so a good range of music for them.I hope they tire themselves out and get to bed at a reasonable hour, although I would say the chances are slim!!!!


My name is Stacie. said...

Listening to Emily's dreams and schemes makes me think so much of myself when I was her age. It makes me imagine what it would be like to have a girl with interests similar to mine. Levi is so different from me.

Was she born on Valentines Day?

Hope you are able to sleep tomorrow night!

dawny said...

sounds as if they will have a lovely time :o)

Lynn said...

Hi Stacie,
Yes our Em is definitely a dreamer,
I do understand how difficult it can be when your child has different interests or ways of doing things.I am quite practical and ordered and the way Emily does things is so far the other way!!!I would prefer to write my story's down but Emily acts hers out and although I enjoy it, I do find it hard to keep it going as long as she would wish.. I also think that being together 24/7 and being their main playmate can sometimes magnify those differences. It seems from reading your blog you and Levi are beginning to find a lot of common ground, I do understand this can feel as though we have to put our own needs off and can be frustrating.As time has gone on I am finding a way to fit in what I want to do whilst ensuring I am available for Emily, and my husband has helped in enabling me to have time, while they do "stuff" together.It has taken a year to get to where we are and there is still a way to go so that I can feel my needs are being met as well.I think our children are sent (or choose to come to us) to teach us things, and in my case one of the many things she has done for me is that(on a good day) I have learnt to let go of my need for order and to live more in the moment.I hope this helps in some way to know you are not alone.
She was born on 16th feb.
We did get some sleep!!
I will post about it later on.

Lynn said...

Dawny,thanks for dropping by. They did have a lovely time if somewhat rowdy!! I had to be a party pooper at 2.15 and tell them to turn the lights out but they told me this morning they were still awake till 3.30 listening to the sounds of the house and imagining ghosts???

My name is Stacie. said...

"As time has gone on I am finding a way to fit in what I want to do whilst ensuring I am available for Emily."

That is what I am working towards. My husband is willing to help when I ask, he just doesn't always see the need until I say something. Must be an oblivious man thing. So I just need to make my needs known to him, and then he is more than willing to see that they are met.

Thanks for your support. And yes, Levi and I are finding common ground. It just doesn't come naturally. But we get on just fine, no personality conflicts. Just have to work on allowing our interests to co-exist.

My b-day is Feb. 26th - just 10 days after Emily's. No wonder I can see a kindred in her.

Lynn said...

you will find a way to get your time,it is a similar thing here maybe it is a man thing,I just have to say and Al will accomodate.I have had to accept that he is not a mind reader!!!!

Does that birthday make you an aquarian too??

I have just read the lovely comment your Mum left on your last post you are a lucky woman to have her in your corner.XXXX

My name is Stacie. said...

No, I'm a pisces, but i have a lot of aquarian traits. I love personality profiles and sun/moon signs.